Fifty Shades of Gray…

It’s a thing, right?! Why did so many women go crazy of this book about soft-core BDSM?

Many of the same women who are cold and shut down with their partners were in love with this book… I was one of them.

So, what gives?!

The truth is that, YES, the feminine deeply desires for the masculine to take control and ravish them!

But there is a catch… or two.

First of all, she must feel SAFE enough with the masculine lead and TRUST in his ability to HONOR her and her needs with that lead. Because surrendering to his lead requires in unimaginable amount of vulnerability and trust from her.

There is a masculine desire felt by some to dominate the feminine, inducing full surrender allowing the experience of the ultimate desire of the masculine: being fully received by the feminine. However, a forced, pressured or coerced surrender of the feminine creates a fabricated and shallow reception.

Earning the true depths of receptivity and vulnerability of the feminine cannot be rushed, pressured or coerced. The feminine must be tended and allowed to blossom in her own time through trust, appreciation, sensitivity to her needs, patience, kindness, support, and protection. She must trust in the structure and protection the masculine offers. None of this is confined to the physical… every level of this must be felt, mind body and soul by the feminine counterpart.

When the feminine has been tended to in these ways, she will bloom and blossom into a ripe juicy fruit, ready to receive all of the masculine and all of his desires with all that she is: mind, body and soul.